I was going to make a comment on the last post from a guest blooger but decided that maybe it was worth putting up a post myself. I was intrigued by this comment:
“But the difference between positive people and those who let themselves slip into a kind of depression because they worry too much lies in knowing where to draw the line, and not letting yourself cross it.”
This is probably the core of what anxiety is all about. We are concerned that we are “letting” ourselves slip, or that we are not positive enough. I find that positiveness cannot be forced. I am not a positive person, but I can enable myself to be realistic. I may not be able to say that everything will work out in the end, but I can say that I will cope with what ever comes my way as best I can.
I do sometimes slip into despression, and at times it does all become too much. Trying to keep worry at bay is exhausting, but I find rather than fighting my anxiety all the time, that it is often best just to acknowledge that this is me, that it doesn’t make me a bad person, or negative, it’s just who I am. Funnily enough, this is often enough to ease the anxiety and I can move on.
It is summer here and we are just about to go off on our camping holiday, and I’m anxious! I have packing to do, and in the back of my mind is the nagging thought that my son is off with his mates at a music festival getting up to goodness only know what! There is always something to worry about – but so far, I am keeping it all at a reasonable level, and acknowledging that although I am worried about my son driving, and being on busy roads etc, that in the end this is probably just normal behaviour for any mother. I’m not catastrophising, but I will be glad when he joins us for the rest of the holiday and I will have all my loved ones safe and sound.
Happy New Year.
Jane


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December 31, 2008 at 1:48 am
Licia Berry
I stumbledonto your blog…….Your post made me think of this Carl Jung quote:
“The foundation of all mental illness is the avoidance of true suffering.”
I have found this to be true in the whole “stay positive” mania that seems to be sweeping the new consciousness movement (in the latest form of Law of Attraction.) While I agree that is is healthy to keep a balanced perspective and be aware and vigilant when we feel ourselves sliding down a slippery slope at times, other times it is important, as you say, to acknowledge where we are….another Jung quote comes to mind:
“We cannot change anything unless we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.”
December 31, 2008 at 9:58 am
D
You’re definitely right: You can’t force anxiety to go away. “I may not be able to say that everything will work out in the end, but I can say that I will cope with what ever comes my way as best I can.” Those words are so true! http://iamlivingwithanxiety.blogspot.com/
January 15, 2009 at 5:38 pm
Lilian Nattel
Worrying isn’t a sin. I think it’s important to say that because the “be positive” attitude gives the impression that it is. The problem is when worry about what-ifs takes a person away from the good that is here right now. I can, at times, be a master of worry. But if I can have a quiet few moments to connect spiritually, light can be brought to bear on it that cuts through all the worrying mental arguments.
January 19, 2009 at 6:59 pm
jane
Thank you all so much for your comments. I came back from a fantastic holiday and have been thrown down a tunnel of anxiety, which i am slowly coming out of. . In the end I couldn’t find anything positive about coming back to work and everything else that awaited me …. Telling myself that time would pass seems to have helped, as has the “I will cope” mantra.
February 8, 2009 at 4:50 pm
Elizabeth Kaylene
Worrying about things definitely adds to stress, and therefore can add to depression. Unfortunately I’m already more susceptible to depression — it runs in my family — and constantly have to ask myself if what I’m worrying about will still be bad in two weeks.
I frequently remind myself that “this too shall pass.”
April 24, 2009 at 1:46 am
salma
I hate it when anxiety attack me. Sweat flow from my armpit,non-stop. Such a shame for me each time it happen. I’m trying to stop it using recommendations collected from the internet. Thank God, I found your website!
I will stop worry too much about my anxiety after this!
May 19, 2009 at 12:23 pm
Blend
Seriously! i will think twice on controlling my anxiety…